When You Move Forward ~ Don’t Leave Yourself Behind

The quality of our life today is a reflection of our past experiences, motives and values. People do not change; we reinvent our lives and smooth out the rough spots. Our past has made us the person we are today. We should never forget the good or bad things that made us who we are right now. We must think about the times we have struggled and how we have navigated through tough times. We must remember all the decisions we have made that have impacted us and made us who we are today.

I believe the consequences of our past choices and actions bring us to where we are now. People say forget the past but how can you forget what made you who you are. How can we forget what we know, what we are, and where we have been in our lives? Leaders take responsibility for the future, but they gain insight to the future by owning, reflecting on and growing from the past.

Human beings are forward-looking by nature.  We “look forward” to continued and enhanced existence.  In day-to-day life, we can see that our activity is directed towards our goals and future success. However, we must reflect back to be able to lead forward. The quality of our reflection directly affects the quality of our success now and in the future.

We are the sum total of all our experiences and we have to use those experiences as fuel for moving forward. Although the past is obviously not a place to live, it can be a source of learning.  Like a filing cabinet it contains valuable information in the form of recorded experiences.  These experiences, if used in the right way with the right intention, can help us make good decisions now as we shape our future.

“It’s always good to remember where you come from and celebrate it. To remember where you come from is part of where you’re going.” – Anthony Burgess

We are all motivated to move our lives in certain directions. That motivation is determined by our values and what we perceive to be important truths about life. These ideals are then reinforced by our emotions and feelings, which turns our mental perception into a vital passion that we hope to realize in our lives.

Life has a way of disconnecting us from who we truly are, and we feel the effects of this in everything we do. I’m a firm believer that I am who I am today because of all I have been through in my life. I live life with no regrets because even the bad situations I have been in have molded me and taught me something. I try hard to live in harmony with who I really am. Consequently, every role I fill in life becomes just one more expression of my true self.

Any attempt to structure a meaningful life course must include this knowledge of true self. Without it, we will inadvertently compromise the very values that give us our personal identity. Adaptability is an important and vital skill. However, as we adapt, it is very easy to lose our connection with who we really are on a core level.

If we want a deep sense of inner peace for our future, we must remember what is at our very core, and build from there. Knowing our core values, motives and passions means that we don’t need to look for our identity externally. Striving to be something we are not only creates internal conflict and disharmony.

We should always remember the truth about who we are, because the way we see ourselves, our sense of identity, affects everything we do. It affects the way we behave, the way we feel about ourselves, and the way we make choices. Authentic Leadership is when you know your true self and your actions and behaviors follow in line with that unique truth.

Jamie Wood, Avatel EVP


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