Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all small stuff
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude. – William James
The following excerpt is from the book written by Dr. Richard Carlson, Ph.D. May it help provide you with dozens of stress-reducing strategies to live a calmer, happier life and enjoy deeper, more satisfying relationships with friends and loved ones.
“Whenever we’re dealing with bad news, a difficult person or a disappointment of some kind, most of us get into certain habits, ways of reacting to life – particularly adversity – that don’t serve us very well. We overreact, blow things out of proportion, hold on too tightly and focus on the negative aspects of life. When we are immobilized by little things – when we are irritated, annoyed and easily bothered – our (over-) reactions not only make us frustrated but actually get in the way of getting what we want. We lose sight of the bigger picture, focus on the negative and annoy other people who might otherwise help us. In short, we live our lives as if they were one great big emergency! We often rush around looking busy, trying to solve problems, but in reality, we are often compounding them. Because everything seems like such a big deal, we end up spending our lives dealing with one drama after another.
After a while, we begin to believe that everything really is a big deal. We fail to recognize that the way we relate to our problems has a lot to do with how quickly and efficiently we solve them. When you learn the habit of responding to life with more ease, problems that seems “insurmountable” will begin to seem more manageable. And even the “biggies,” things that are truly stressful, won’t throw you off track as much as they once did.
Happily, there is another way to relate to life – a softer, more graceful path that makes life seem easier and the people in it more compatible. This “other way” of living involves replacing old habits of “reaction” with new habits of perspective. These new habits enable us to have richer, more satisfying lives.”
In his book, Dr. Carlson shares very specific strategies – things you can start doing today – that will help you respond to life more gracefully. Each strategy is simple, yet powerful, and will act as a navigational guide to point you in the direction of greater perspective and more relaxed living.
When you “don’t sweat the small stuff,” your life won’t be perfect, but you will learn to accept what life has to offer with far less resistance. As we learn in the Zen philosophy, when you learn to “let go” of problems instead of resisting with all your might, your life will begin to flow. You will, as the serenity prayer suggests, “Change the things that can be changed, accept those that cannot and have the wisdom to know the difference.”
If you give this book’s strategies a try, you too will learn the two rules of harmony.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff, and
- It’s all small stuff.
As you incorporate these ideas into your life you will begin to create a more peaceful and loving you.
Source: Dr. Richard Carlson
Avatel Project Manager and Avatel Brand Ambassador
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